That includes text message terrorism, drunk dialling, "accidentally" going past their house 5 times a day or "bumping into them" every night. It's not working! All you're doing it making them dread seeing or hearing from you - and that's not what you want.
Stop being needy
People want what they can't have, not what's lying sobbing at their feet. Sorry to be harsh, but neediness is never attractive, in a man or a woman. People are attracted to calm, positive energy, not hysterics and drunken pleas for forgiveness.
Stop issuing threats or ultimatums
If any of these sound familiar, you need to back off:
"I'll kill myself if you don't take me back" - if you really feel that bad, you need a good friend to talk to or the Samaritans - PLEASE get help now! But NEVER use this as a threat to get someone back, whether you mean it or not.
"If you don't want me, there are plenty of guys/girls who do" - do you really think you're going to be more attractive if you act like the local tart or jock?
"You'll be sorry! I'll [insert evil deed] if you don't take me back!" - right now, they're probably feeling pretty relieved to be out of a relationship with a "bunny-boiler" and not in the least sorry.
Stop trying to get your mutual friends on your side
If you have joint friends, they're in a hard place right now too. They want to be loyal to both of you, so give them a chance to be and don't abuse that friendship by trying to find out what your ex is up to.
Stop bad-mouthing your ex
This is especially true if you're doing it to mutual friends (see above). You'll just make them feel uncomfortable now, and when you do get back with your ex, you'll always be worrying if someone will tell him/her what you said.
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